Creating compassion across differences is not easy when we are activated. Often we are very attached to our strategy to make a change in the world or in our family. And when others disagree with our strategy or solution, it may touch into something deep within us whether we are aware of this or just of something rising in us. Often it is something about thinking we don’t matter. NVC separates our strategy from our values, drivers, needs, longings and this is one of the keys that gets win:win results rather than relying upon compromise.