I had a session with Marianne from CupOfEmpathy.com, and she suggested that I may like to check out when my “full yes” isn’t on board, as a way to increase my energy and also my trust in myself, in relationships.

Do you want to start to trust yourself, through only saying yes when it is fully felt in your heart? If so, read on, and see the steps at the bottom. Any questions please ask in the comments so other’s can see. Or let us know how this is going for you.

Has someone suggested something to you and you think “YES!”? That yes feels great – it is a full yes. When I don’t have an enthusiastic, heart-felt yes it feels different inside me. It could be just a tiny bit of a “no” (you know the type you can ignore), and the rest of me says “yes”. That tiny bit of “no” may not get heard – in my case, quite often! It doesn’t get empathy either – I give myself the message that “it” (ie me) doesn’t matter enough.

Only going ahead with something when the yes is full hearted, is scary for me. Sooo often there is a partial “no”. I plan to make it a practice to notice when I don’t have a full yes (for some people it is about having a full no, so translate if that is you).

Choice is something that has been identified as reducing violence, and Nonviolent Communication aims at increasing our choices. This is one method.

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